Psalm 68:5-6

A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling.

God sets the lonely in families, he leads forth the prisoners with singing; but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land.

I am Stepanie Nance. My family adopted two little boys with Down Syndrome from Ukraine in 2010. I hope to educate and to inspire you. I hope to make you laugh and to make you cry.

Come along for the ride. It's a wild one!

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Yes, still alive.

Yes, we are still alive! Barely!

What an interesting week I have had with these boys. We went nearly straight from the orphanage to the train station a week ago Monday. The train trip was really pretty easy as it was an overnight train.

After a couple of days in Kyiv we endured the longest day flying home. Zhenya had some trouble on the flight from Kyiv to Frankfurt, but slept nearly the entire two flights after that. Poor Theo didn't sleep at all on the way home, and by extention neither did I!

Adjusting to the time difference was more difficult upon coming home than it was when we left. I also have several new children to care for, so who knows. I'm still wiped out today! I'm trying to decide if I have enough energy to do the grocery store with all these little people. Dad is traveling again.

The kids seem to genuinely like their new brothers. Ruby likes to pet them on the head and run away giggling. Ralph has pretty much ignored them altogether, though. I think he is probably wondering when they will be leaving! ha!

Zhen is a great eater and is acting pretty content overall. He prefers to play by himself and goes into the bedroom and shuts the door. He has some agressive tendencies, but so far they have only been directed toward me.

Theo is amazing and heartbreaking at the same time. He is constantly hungry and will eat until he overflows. I'm trying to give him as much as he wants, within reason. He officially weighs 13 pounds 1 ounce. I am totally disregarding his weight from the visa medical appointment. That appointment was really a joke. Did I tell you how they weighed him? I stood on a cracked old bathroom scale with him, and then again without him in my arms and the nurse recorded the difference.

We visited our family doctor yesterday to get a baseline for his weight. The doc suspects that he may have additional genetic issues due to his size and peculiar odor and has referred us to a children's hospital for some testing. These are tests that he definitely needs, and although I do not share the doc's suspicions it will be interesting to see what kind of results we get. If I had not seen so very many tiny children at the orphanage with the same starved appearance, I might agree with him.

Yesterday was a hard one for Theo and I. Lots of crying. Lots of Theo smacking and punching himself. Lots of me trying hard to figure out what he needed or wanted at the time. But I tell you, I love that kid to pieces. I couldn't imaging loving him more if I had given birth to him. Knowing how I love him, you will surely forgive me for what I'm about to tell you. Yes, he is wearing pink. I was unprepared for such a tiny boy and the only clothes that fit him are Ruby's old things!

Today, things are a bit brighter. I totally fed him way too much this morning and he spit up a lot. But right now he is playing on the floor and having a great time. He is pretty strong and has good energy. I helped him practice standing for a bit. He seems to enjoy that. It is so good to see him enjoy something, to see him smile, to hear him babbling. I just love the way he rocks himself to sleep. Yes, it is sad that he needed to learn to comfort himself, but it is so cute the way he clasps his hands and closes his eyes while rolling back and forth. He appears to be praying fervently.

The fact that he is home with us now is the answer to many others' fervent prayers. Thank you.


  1. Thanks for the update, Stephanie. I've been wondering. Praying for you all as you continue to adjust and get to know each other.

  2. Thanks for taking the time to update. i kept checking for a new update, going to your other blog as wee, but then I realized that you must be soooo busy, with school starting and the two new children at home. I pray that
    god will give you wisdom every day with everything you attempt. i "saw" you visited
    Adeya's blog. Now, if ever I doubted what a miracle God can do in the children, her sweet Hailee is definitely a testimony. I"m looking forward to see what God is going to do for Theo as well.

  3. I'm so happy you're home! Congratulations!! I pray that everyone will adjust well to the change and that you'll catch up on much needed rest!

  4. Thank you for saving those precious boys! Keeping you in my prayers!

  5. Oh I am so happy the boys are doing well. Theo is a little peanut isn't he?:) He'll grow, now that he is home with his FAMILY!:)

  6. I've been checking in to, thanks for the update you are so busy. still praying

  7. so excited for Theo that maybe he just needed a few days to calm down, and hey real men wear pink anyway! I am sure he wont mind, I saw what he wore before!!
    I am sure he will put on weight, and he may just need extra loving and he will be better, Also Zhen probably doesnt know real love either thats probably why he has aggression, so glad you guys are all back here! And in my mind I can just SEE RALPHIE ignoring them! HA! Love that Ralphie! :)

  8. Thanks for the update. I know exactly what you mean about "loving him to pieces". It feels like Isaiah was "born" to us the "typical" way. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you start doctoring for Theo. You are an amazing mom who is one of my new inspirations! I'm so happy to have met you in person.



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