Psalm 68:5-6

A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling.

God sets the lonely in families, he leads forth the prisoners with singing; but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land.

I am Stepanie Nance. My family adopted two little boys with Down Syndrome from Ukraine in 2010. I hope to educate and to inspire you. I hope to make you laugh and to make you cry.

Come along for the ride. It's a wild one!

Sunday, May 8, 2011

On this mother's day...

On this mother's day, I can't help but think of my Ukrainian boys' birth mothers. I know they don't celebrate mother's day like we do here, but I cannot help myself.

When birthdays, ladies days, and mother's days roll around in Ukraine, are they reminded of the terrible day their sons were born? And the terrible decision they were forced to make? Judging by the sheer volume of social orphans, there must be a whole generation of would-be mothers who are likely hurting on days like today.

I envy the fact that they gave birth to my beautiful boys. How precious and sweet smelling they must have been as newborns. I imagine how snugly soft they were and how they would have melted into my chest. I imagine gently rocking them and watching them drift off to sleep in mommy's safe arms. I imagine their snickers and giggles as daddy would play with their little piggies.

baby Zhen. :)

Sadly, that was not the reality for my boys or their birth mothers. Motherhood is a miraculous gift. One that keeps giving over the years as I surrender to it. I know what babies with Down Syndrome feel like. How they look right into your soul. The world's best kept secret. Knowing what those women and men lost out on hurts my heart. And yet, I'm so very thankful and mindful of the great treasure that has been entrusted to me.

So on this Mother's Day, I'm sending out prayers for the mommies who gave up on what they didn't understand, what they couldn't have known. I won't forget you. Ever.


  1. I think of Timothy's birthmother on the special days too... I wish I knew if she thinks of him... I like to think that she does, and that she prays for him like I pray for her. I can't imagine the circumstances that led them to leave him, but I thank God everyday for them, the decision that they made, and for this little boy that He sent to my heart, and to our family. I am so blessed to be called his "Mama".

  2. I'm praying for your boys bio mother, only God knows how heartbreaking must have been for them to take that decision. Baby Zhen was so cute! Well, he's still really cute (:

  3. We always prayer for our future little girls mother. We know she will have a hard road and life long journey just as we will through this process. Its so important to remember them and what they give to us.

    Brooke Annessa



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